Monday, December 10, 2012

My Turn on Time

I've read a lot of blog posts where authors talk about where they find time to write in the midst of other obligations. I love reading these posts, because it encourages me that people who are super busy can still find time to write without neglecting their families and work.

I guess I'm not alone in being curious about this, because when people find out I'm an author, one of the first questions I get is: How do you find time to write?

Background info:
I have four kids: 7, 5, 3, 6 months old.

My oldest has Down Syndrome and has a TON of health problems. My weeks are filled with doctor's appointments, medical testing, calling doctors, calling the insurance company, meetings with his support coordinator, with his teachers, researching what's going on with him, giving him meds, changing his diaper, playing with him (and trying to keep him out of trouble!)

I also make sure to give the other three equal amount of attention, play time, running around outside-good-quality-mom time.

Plus regular mom duties like cleaning the house, making dinner, running errands, etc. And I have church stuff of top of this.

So... how do I find time to write?

1) I have an extremely supportive husband. He takes the kids out of the house at least once a week on his day off so that I can get some quiet writing time in. He helps clean, wash dishes, fold laundry, give meds, so that I can have more time to write in the evenings, and he is always encouraging me to go write.

2) I've had to give up some of my favorite primetime tv shows. One of the best times for me to write is in the evening after my kids go to bed. My husband has basketball in the evenings, or scout meetings (he's a unit or district commissioner or something like that. Don't ask me. The scout stuff is gibberish to me. All I know is that he as meetings that he's in charge of and he wears a uniform), so he's gone a lot and I have a quiet house all to myself. I'm usually exhausted by the end of the day, but I force myself to pull out my laptop, and after a few minutes of trudging through, I always get in the groove.

3) I put my three-year-old in preschool twice a week and I put the baby down for a nap, and I get almost three hours of writing time on those days. This is my sacred writing time. I won't even answer the phone on Tuesdays and Thursdays between 8 and 11am. People can leave a message. That's my 100%-never-fail writing time and I LOVE it.

4) Sometimes I tell people: When you're scrapbooking (or sewing, or baking, or crafting, or training for a race, or cleaning) that's when I'm writing.

5) It takes self-disciple. When I do get those bits of time, I force myself to sit and the computer and write something. It can be a blog post or part of my outline, or story ideas, or the next scene in my wip. But if my fingers are moving over the keyboard (and not because I'm on Facebook or my email) then I'm good.

When do you find time to write? Have you had to give up anything in order to have time to write?

2 comments:

  1. Thank you Kaylee. This topic has been on my mind a lot too. My favorite time to write is early in the morning before anyone else is up. Of course this means I'm falling asleep by around nine each night. This arrangement works well for my family because my kids are ages 13 and up so they are use to tucking Mom in bed and then going to bed themselves by 10.

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  2. YOU are inspiring! I have one little guy (2.5) and I whine. All the time, lol. It's sad after reading this. I work outside the home, teaching piano lessons, and preK music. It does get sticky trying to find time, especially with all the blogging and social networking commitments. But when you love it enough, you do it. I have had to give up TV, but the more I get into writing, the less I care about TV. I have also had to give up social time and time on the weekends. My hubs is great about letting me go to the library for hours on the weekends. That helps a lot! What it comes down to is I'm happiest when I'm writing, in the thick of a novel. Happiness will always require sacrifice.

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