Sunday, February 27, 2011

The Bachelor and Me

Some of you may know that I am a Bachelor fan. You know, that show on ABC with all the the girls chasing one guy. They are all doing everything they can to catch his attention. I love this show. I love the drama. I love the ridiculousness of it all. I love the small bit of hope in me that believes the final result is a love match that really will last forever.

This weekend, I think I had a small glimpse at what those women on The Bachelor feel when they are trying to get that hunky, possible future husband's attention. I was one of several women (well, there were a few men, too) at a writing conference, trying to get the attention of an agent.

I went to the ANWA 2011 writing conference in Phx, AZ this weekend. I have to admit that it was the first writing conference I've ever been to, so I didn't know what to expect. My nerves have been on high alert all week, though, knowing that I'd be pitching my book to one of the agents there.

The first night of the conference, after all of the classes were over, we had a "meet and greet." Which is kind of like a cocktail party, only instead of cocktails, we had lots and lots of water. And the point is to mingle and meet new people and to network. So I wanted to talk with the agent I was pitching to the next day, hoping to get my nerves out with a casual conversation that had nothing to do with my book.

For those of you who watch The Bachelor, they also have a cocktail party right before he chooses which girls he will keep and which girls get the boot. And the tricky part is that these girls have to get time with the bachelor so that he's thinking of you when he'd deciding who gos and who stays.

 I was a little disappointed in the drama-free cocktail party at this conference--no crying, no fighting, no bitter "you've-missed-out-on-the-best-thing-that-ever-could-have-happened-to-yous" (that I'm aware of)--but there was still that sense of trying to get in with the agent to leave your impression before the real games began.

Since I had that image in my mind the whole night, when I met with the agent the next day for my pitch, I kept thinking about the one-on-one dates on the show. That's where the girls really get to know the bachelor and try to convince him to pick them. So, guess what kept going through my mind when I sat down for my pitch session with the agent? This is our one-on-one date. Is she going to give me a rose or send me home?

I really enjoyed talking with her. It's amazing to me that these agents know just what to ask. And it's just plain fun talking to someone about my book. So, when we left our one-on-one, I felt really excited to keep writing and to keep working on my manuscript. Now I wonder if I'll be thinking of literary agents and writing conference "meet and greets" when I watch The Bachelor tomorrow night.


  1. That sounds nerve wracking. I'm glad it went well for you. What type of book were you pitching?

  2. I pitched my new contemporary YA novel. I should post a teaser here on my blog about it. My nerves were up, but I'm really glad I did it. It was a good experience, for sure.

  3. What a great comparison! Too funny. I'll be there all too soon...

  4. That's such a great analogy!
    And I LOVE the bachelor too!

    Anyway, thanks for sharing your experience. I've never gone to a conference before and I've always wondered what the dynamics were like there. Good to know! :D

  5. I'm glad you had a great time meeting with one of the Kellys - I wasn't brave enough to pitch yet, the MS needs some major work still. That's what I get for writing fantasy, they are LONG books. Grrr. Thanks for stopping by my blog, always fun to connect with other awesome women!


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